LOL, thats what it was like over here too before I asked her. Trust me, it doesnt get much better after you ask her b/c thats all she'll talk about. Someone please tell me this ends after the wedding:o

My first wedding (shudder) was that huge union that was social/business/networking bs that I didn't even know 1/2 the people there. It was insane. It was beautiful but about as substantive as the marriage. My second (smile) was a small intimate wedding with only our closest family and friends and while very tasteful; reflected us and was family oriented. We all sat around one large table (I said it was small) for the dinner and it was perfect. Do what you want but make it a reflection of who you are as a couple; not what anyone wants you to do. I was also older when I had #2 so I didn't have all those girlish things in my head I had to do in a wedding. Most of all - have fun!

I'm soooo glad I won't have to deal with any of this stuff ;)

Um, sure - all of a sudden she'll turn into this person who will no longer ask you for anything or never nag you again ;)

;)

Our wedding was relatively small, about 95 or so, family and friends. We paid for it ourselves but it still wasn't a "do what we want" affair on several fronts. Personally I was glad it was over. It was so stressful with the families and what not that for the first few days of the honeymoon we were barking at each other (doesn't help that there were hotel issues, too). I kinda wish we booked the honeymoon a few weeks after the fact to let that stress escape.

We had a wedding planner, which helped, and I would recommend a competent one, but ours was less than ideal which was another issue to deal with.

I wish that were true.:rolleyes:;)

[QUOTE=AMF in NJ;10345842]I kinda wish we booked the honeymoon a few weeks after the fact to let that stress escape.QUOTE]

We are coming back to NYC for a week before we go on our honeymoon so that she can get moved in to wherever I am living at that point and to get over the rush of just getting married. This way I think it will feel more like a vacation than a rush out of town.

The Penalty Box has turned into TheKnot.com

I know a couple who eloped because of that. Her father was a pastor in a large suburban church and her parents were insisting they invite the entire congregation of over 1,000 people. The bride had not grown up in this church, her father wasn't pastor there until she had graduated college and was living her own life and working in a different city, and she refused. I think on the groom's side his parents were trying to do the same with a bunch of business associates. Finally the couple just went to the JP and got married and then told everyone about it after the fact. Both sets of parents were understandably upset, but they never seemed to get the point that the wedding was for, and about, their kids, not themselves.

That ended the whole big wedding fiasco and they celebrated with family and close friends in a moderate, but very nice, reception a couple of months later.

No kidding.

Well this was the year of Penalty Box engagements/weddings/shacking ups. Must be something in the beer.

Probably alcohol.

:p :p :cool:



We had a very small wedding (< 75 people) and it was exactly what we wanted. The reception was in a small historic house in downtown Austin and our closest friends and family were in attendance.

Lots of dancing, talking, and having a good time was what we aimed for and it's what happened.

yeah , Im sticking to vodka and rum from now on .

A prime example of this is the venue that we're considering. It's a golf course east of Philly, and the clubhouse sits at the highest point. Great views, nice room, good pricing, and the added ^ for me is that I'm willing to bet that my girl could negotiate in some rounds for me.

There you go - fitting in the personality of both of you ^