How do you handle grumpy Flight Attendants ?
#31


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Absolutely no one in a grumpy mood wants to be told to smile, much less by a customer who simply wants pseudo-cheerful service.
#32




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Please don't. This will not have the effect you're thinking. It comes off very patronizing and probably sexist in current American culture. I'm fairly sure the emoji was sarcastic.
Absolutely no one in a grumpy mood wants to be told to smile, much less by a customer who simply wants pseudo-cheerful service.
Absolutely no one in a grumpy mood wants to be told to smile, much less by a customer who simply wants pseudo-cheerful service.
#34


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Being extra polite, friendly and nice can backfire and make the grumpy flight attendant even more grumpy. Sometimes with honey you can get stung by a bee. Just act normally and try to minimize contact and chatting with the flight attendant. It also makes no sense to complain in-flight since the crew has all the power. If it really gets that bad, wait until after the flight to make your concern known on a survey or an online customer service form.
#35




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Indeed, BTW polite, friendly and nice is SOP. And if they get even more grumpy, so what? Unless there is some egregiously bad service, it isn't going to make any difference to the here-and-now interaction. But I would not escalate the grumping match, nor highlight any issues with service until after the flight, you just never know how that can escalate into something bad with the rogue attendant.
#36


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Indeed, BTW polite, friendly and nice is SOP. And if they get even more grumpy, so what? Unless there is some egregiously bad service, it isn't going to make any difference to the here-and-now interaction. But I would not escalate the grumping match, nor highlight any issues with service until after the flight, you just never know how that can escalate into something bad with the rogue attendant.
#37
Join Date: Nov 2013
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Well, I have indeed worked a public facing job. 7pm to 3am for a year. Bonus: thanks to the time of my shift, many of my customers were intoxicated. Now I have even less forgiveness for public-facing employees because my takeaway was that if you do your job correctly like I did - with tact, patience, and respect for each customer even if they were disrespectful - then even the most demanding and unreasonable customers can be tamed.
The public doesn't suck. If you're a service provider who thinks this, then you either have an extremely unfortunate clientele, or you in fact are not competent in providing service.
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Also, please do not say the Flight Attendant job "isn't easy."
Raising a kid isn't easy.
Open-heart surgery isn't easy.
Writing a screenplay isn't easy.
Graduating from Ranger School isn't easy.
Building deep neural networks for self-driving cars isn't easy.
The job of a flight attendant is easy. And yes I know what I am talking about because I have personally attended new hire FA training at a major US airline.
I've never personally worked as an FA, that's true, but given the vast majority of FAs are not grumpy, I have no tolerance for those who are. I'll still say please and thank you with my drink orders, but I'm not going to bend over backwards to try to sympathize with how "the public sucks" or "the job isn't easy," because I have bent over sufficiently backwards to conclude the public does not suck and the job is in fact easy.
#38
Join Date: Mar 2017
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All of those sound like horrible ways to handle such a situation. Maybe assume that the F/A has a bad day. Everybody has those and it is difficult to keep smiling when you have a sh** day. Even F/A have days where everything goes wrong (from minor stuff to major things such as breakups, death of a relative, serious health problem of a child, etc.). If you really feel talking about it, then try having a productive (as in friendly, understanding, supportive, etc.) talk rather than complaining or being grumpy to the FA.
FWIW I apply my #1 maxim when it comes to interacting with staff (as a customer or a co-worker/superior): Treat them as you expect to be treated.
FWIW I apply my #1 maxim when it comes to interacting with staff (as a customer or a co-worker/superior): Treat them as you expect to be treated.
Confronting somebody is not a horrible thing to do, i am confronting you now and saying i disagree with your opinions
Why should we allow somebody to treat us badly, i did nothing and i expect to be treated with respect
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#40



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Well, this thread has me miffed, because I always greet them when boarding with a big smile and a "Good morning, nice to see you (or) nice to see you again (which happens on occasion) !!"
Non-existent problem solved.
Non-existent problem solved.
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How do you handle grumpy Flight Attendants in your cabin ?
Does the presence of a grumpy FA considerably ruin your enjoyment of the flight or trip ?
- Confront or comment directly to the grumpy FA about their grumpy attitude
- Make a passive-agressive comment to the grumpy FA as a way to point out their grumpyness
- Smile and be extra pleasant to the grumpy FA in the hope they become aware of their grumpy attitude and change it
- Be grumpy, unsmiling and unacknowledging back to the grumpy FA
- Comment about the grumpy FA to other FAs
- Comment about the grumpy FA to seatmates who are not your travel companions
- During the flight, request and fill a complaint-form (is there a more specific name for this form ?), and hand it back to crew
- After the flight complain to the airline's about the grumpy FA, with or without expectation of a compensation
- Put on your headphones, avoid interacting or making eye contact with the grumpy FA
- Do you handle the grumpy FA in another way ?
Does the presence of a grumpy FA considerably ruin your enjoyment of the flight or trip ?


