It Gets Better, Unless You're Fat
May 16, 2014, 11:33 pm
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So, while I am unsure if this is some kind of 'payback' from the bear community to the buff cutie community, or just the normal, now expected ugly side of the gay community as a whole just popping up in another group - which gives even more weight to my theory and position that the nasty infighting, racism and insults need to stop before this community as a whole can claim any right to equality.
The Muscle Bear group is pretty set in the fact that if you don't spent 4 hours a day in the gym that you aren't worthy. The Bear group (the ones who aren't muscle bears or not so in shape bears, are pretty open to most people), and the not so in shape bears can be some of the nasty ones. Now granted, there are always people who accept those how they are.
If any of you been to IBR, Bear Pride or any other bear events you will see all types and all types of attitudes.
May 20, 2014, 9:47 pm
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From my point of view those are cities that generally attract and embrace what I'd describe as older, larger, not exactly up-to-date on fashion gay men. I'm not knocking those (often comfortable) men, just observing that I'd say those cities are 2 places with much less emphasis on appearance than say West Hollywood, NYC/Chelsea/HK, Miami, Seattle, Barcelona, Paris, etc. etc. etc.
May 21, 2014, 11:16 pm
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And this is why threads like this are so interesting and highlight our differences in viewpoints:
From my point of view those are cities that generally attract and embrace what I'd describe as older, larger, not exactly up-to-date on fashion gay men. I'm not knocking those (often comfortable) men, just observing that I'd say those cities are 2 places with much less emphasis on appearance than say West Hollywood, NYC/Chelsea/HK, Miami, Seattle, Barcelona, Paris, etc. etc. etc.
From my point of view those are cities that generally attract and embrace what I'd describe as older, larger, not exactly up-to-date on fashion gay men. I'm not knocking those (often comfortable) men, just observing that I'd say those cities are 2 places with much less emphasis on appearance than say West Hollywood, NYC/Chelsea/HK, Miami, Seattle, Barcelona, Paris, etc. etc. etc.
WeHo is another story, I remember a joke that the city of WeHo sends out a letter to men who will turn 35 and informs them they should move to Silverlake...
May 22, 2014, 6:51 am
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May 22, 2014, 7:41 am
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Well, I certainly haven't witnessed the behavior that is being complained of in this thread, not for many, many years. Nor have I participated in this behavior. I still fail to understand why the simple fact that I am married to a man rather than a woman puts me under a greater obligation to try to stop this behavior, and I certainly don't understand why bocastephen's problem should have any effect on the legal status of my family.
May 22, 2014, 4:46 pm
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Well, I certainly haven't witnessed the behavior that is being complained of in this thread, not for many, many years. Nor have I participated in this behavior. I still fail to understand why the simple fact that I am married to a man rather than a woman puts me under a greater obligation to try to stop this behavior, and I certainly don't understand why bocastephen's problem should have any effect on the legal status of my family.
Which is a strawman, of course, but people like to whine.
May 27, 2014, 8:09 am
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Wow, I need some popcorn to read ALL of this thread.
Back to like page 2/3. I personally blame FlyerTalk for being, furry and uh, big
I stumbled upon the USAirways thread of XOXO bars back in 2004ish and decided to start flying USAirways more to enjoy those amazing chocolate crunchy yet soft delicacies. HHHMMMMMMMMMM>... omg. I'd like take the entire package away from the First Class flight attendant and devour those suckers before anyone could blink. omgz.
Too bad those things aren't made anymore.. I looked at a few chocolatiers in Switzerland for them, and no luck. :/
and oh yeah, don't be fat & gay in Florida or LA where "looks" reign supreme.
Back to like page 2/3. I personally blame FlyerTalk for being, furry and uh, big
I stumbled upon the USAirways thread of XOXO bars back in 2004ish and decided to start flying USAirways more to enjoy those amazing chocolate crunchy yet soft delicacies. HHHMMMMMMMMMM>... omg. I'd like take the entire package away from the First Class flight attendant and devour those suckers before anyone could blink. omgz.
Too bad those things aren't made anymore.. I looked at a few chocolatiers in Switzerland for them, and no luck. :/
and oh yeah, don't be fat & gay in Florida or LA where "looks" reign supreme.
May 27, 2014, 4:03 pm
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Reading the posts in this thread has been amusing to me to say the least. Not sure what it has to do with GLBT travel. Look, by nature men (including the breeders) are attracted by looks and looks can mean different things to different guys.
When you are young, lean muscled and beautiful its easy to critically judge others because you are sitting in the driver's seat or more precisely your are the Adonis of Grinder. But even the stunning ones grow old one day and the looks, attention and applause start to fade away. For those of us well grounded we understand if not reluctantly the circle of life, move on and if anything get a chuckle out of how juvenile it can be. Others hang on desperately doing things that only make matters worst; we all have seen them in action.
When I was in my 20s and 30s I was hot (well still not that bad now but not a young thing anymore), I knew it, I flaunted it, I usually got who I wanted. Time has moved on and so have I and I hope others will eventually be able to do the same. Moreover, you can still always look good for your age. BTW, the youth obsession is not in the gay world alone. The corporate world can be just as bad, if not worse, than the gay world when it comes to a "youthful appearance."
When you are young, lean muscled and beautiful its easy to critically judge others because you are sitting in the driver's seat or more precisely your are the Adonis of Grinder. But even the stunning ones grow old one day and the looks, attention and applause start to fade away. For those of us well grounded we understand if not reluctantly the circle of life, move on and if anything get a chuckle out of how juvenile it can be. Others hang on desperately doing things that only make matters worst; we all have seen them in action.
When I was in my 20s and 30s I was hot (well still not that bad now but not a young thing anymore), I knew it, I flaunted it, I usually got who I wanted. Time has moved on and so have I and I hope others will eventually be able to do the same. Moreover, you can still always look good for your age. BTW, the youth obsession is not in the gay world alone. The corporate world can be just as bad, if not worse, than the gay world when it comes to a "youthful appearance."
