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dingo Oct 30, 2009 12:14 pm

I see no problem with this strategy. The OP isn't, by and large, shafting EE's that work on tips. So this 'crap' really isn't crap to me...it is changing one's lifestyle to save some money and the servers aren't coming out on the short end of the stick.

dheese Oct 30, 2009 12:15 pm


Originally Posted by Davidwnc (Post 12738387)
Of course she was happy – she was giving you something that cost HER nothing and you were giving her money for it. From your point of view it was ok for her to give away free beer because she got a tip. Would you have been quite as thrilled if you had been the owner, and it your beer she was giving to a ‘bunch’ of people for a ‘couple of hours’?


As you say tipping is ‘about the giver’ – in this case it’s the owner of the establishment who is the ‘giver’ – whilst you and the bartender are the receivers (he of your tip and you of the ‘free’ lager.)

Its the Marriott concierege lounge, the beer is always free. The owner is not affected.

DMH

tsastor Oct 30, 2009 12:16 pm


Originally Posted by Analise (Post 12738212)
So when you travel, do you always purposely not adapt to the customs of service and treatment?

When I travel I do purposely avoid situations that are uncomfortable to me even after having tried them a couple of times. :o

Or do you go out of your way to avoid these situations in Europe as well?
In my part of Europe it is not customary to tip. I usually pay by debit/credit card and here there isn't even a line for a tip. Elsewhere in Europe, tipping is not very common but if I don't know the customs, I always try to remember to find out. After that, the same applies for me in Europe as in the U.S., i.e. tip when it is required but avoid those places when you can. :cool:

djk7 Oct 30, 2009 12:25 pm


Originally Posted by Davidwnc (Post 12738387)
Of course she was happy – she was giving you something that cost HER nothing and you were giving her money for it. From your point of view it was ok for her to give away free beer because she got a tip. Would you have been quite as thrilled if you had been the owner, and it your beer she was giving to a ‘bunch’ of people for a ‘couple of hours’?

My understanding is that dheese was at a hotel lounge with complementary drinks, so nobody was getting cheated.


Originally Posted by dreamwks (Post 12738406)
I don't think anyone is bashing, just pointing out that what not paying a tip means in the US and that the op understands that people generally feel, at least in the US, skipping a tip is almost the same thing as skipping the bill for reasons already pointed out by others.

I agree that not tipping where it is expected is not good form, but I don't see the OP suggesting that. The OP is looking for strategies to avoid tipping situations. Are you suggesting that by going to Burger King, the OP is somehow cheating someone out of a tip they deserve?

rjque Oct 30, 2009 12:41 pm


Originally Posted by tsastor (Post 12737468)
Hi,

planning another trip to the U.S. (California) and this time I would like to try not having to tip anyone during the entire trip.

Last time:
- used cab - had to tip
- stayed at Hiltons on breakfast inclusive rate, got coupons for breakfast, still had to tip
- tipped housekeeping
- stayed at Embassy Suites, tipped bartender during happy hour
- ate at restaurants, tipped waiter

Next time:
- will use airport shuttle / public transportation
- stay at HI Express, do I have to tip at breakfast?
- no need to tip housekeeping?
- eat only at fast food places (no table service) - no tip
- use minibar to take drinks down to the lounge - no tips
- fly an European airline, no need to tip for drinks in the lounge

How about that strategy :D ;) ?

The srategy is fine except for the minibar thing. As others have mentioned, you will pay more this way than if you just order the drink at the bar and tip. Also, most bars not only frown on outside drinks, they will likely not allow it.

The larger question, however, is why you would want to do this? You are coming to California and foregoing much there is to do here simply because you want things to be more like they are where you live. Why not just stay home?

malsf1 Oct 30, 2009 12:43 pm


Originally Posted by Ichinensei (Post 12738415)
i don't tip cabbies...i don't tip for breakfast. i don't tip housekeeping. i don't tip the bartender. And I ONLY tip if the restaurant did an excellent job - ie better than the ones in Japan - which in most cases, doesn't happen, so I don't normally tip the customary 15% or whatever. Waiters have to know that tips are like bonuses... They are not guaranteed.

When I have been in Japan, the prices paid for equivalent quality and amounts of food are considerably higher than in the U.S. I would assume that those prices reflect higher wages paid to employees, so tipping would be considered a "bonus" to those workers. Tips are not "bonuses" to service employees here in the U.S. In those situations where tipping is customary in the U.S., employees are paid minimum wages and rely on tips to ensure reasonable compensation for their work. Whether you feel it is right or wrong, it is the custom and practice. And, having been in Japan several times over the past 20 years, I can say that I appreciate good service when received, but I have not always received better service than here in the U.S.

nickyboy Oct 30, 2009 12:47 pm


Originally Posted by dheese (Post 12737994)
What if I just started walking around in a park in Germany and decided to pick up all the litter I saw and throw it in the proper place? Would that be disrespectful of local tradition? It wouldnt hurt anyone, but by your logic it could be bad because then others may have to do it too or possibly face looking bad.

Its not disrespectful to tip, its just not done by Europeans, thats all.

For me to tip in EU hurts no one, gets me better services, and upholds out gernerous American nature. ;)
DMH

It's interesting that no matter how often Europeans (and for that matter Asians etc) try to explain why we don't want the tipping culture of USA importing to our countries it seems to be waved off with a merry "what's the problem...."

When I visit USA I tip to the cultural norm (which in my opinion is excessive) so please do the same when you visit other countries. When I visit Asia it is so comfortable; no tips whatsoever, good service

Unfortunately when I hear that "surely it isn't a problem etc etc" it just smacks of a lack of sensitivity to local culture and perhaps a bit of arrogance too thrown in for good measure. Just because it is the norm in USA doesn't necessarily mean that it is superior to how things work elsewhere

nickyboy

AlanInDC Oct 30, 2009 12:49 pm

Agreed that there's nothing "wrong" with what the OP suggests, but why do it?

Do you really want to eat at Burger King and Panera Bread all the time? Especially when I'm travelling, I like to have at least one nice meal a day. I mean when in the U.S., so just add the 15% or 18%. Just think -- if you're from a Euro-using country, meals in the U.S. must seem pretty cheap nowadays even after you add on the tip.

tsastor Oct 30, 2009 12:51 pm


Originally Posted by rjque (Post 12738613)
Why not just stay home?

I was afraid that someone would say this. Thanks for the ultimate suggestion. :rolleyes: Since I now got the definite answer I suppose that we can close this thread. :(

travelmad478 Oct 30, 2009 1:45 pm


Originally Posted by ladytraveler (Post 12738340)
Why would you be more inclined to tip someone who brings you a drink and yet not tip the person who cleans your bathroom and changes your sheets?

Because the person that brings you a drink is paid a much lower hourly wage than the one cleaning the bathroom, as allowed by US law, since the assumption is that bartenders and wait staff will be additionally compensated with tips.

rjque Oct 30, 2009 1:58 pm


Originally Posted by travelmad478 (Post 12738945)
Because the person that brings you a drink is paid a much lower hourly wage than the one cleaning the bathroom, as allowed by US law, since the assumption is that bartenders and wait staff will be additionally compensated with tips.

Not true everywhere, and in California in particular (the subject of the OP). Here, bartenders make minimum wage plus tips. It's a pretty lucrative gig compared to housekeeping.

lili Oct 30, 2009 2:14 pm

I'm curious about your reasons for tipping housekeeping at the Hilton and not the Holiday Inn Express.

Kettering Northants QC Oct 30, 2009 2:16 pm


Originally Posted by travelmad478 (Post 12738945)
Because the person that brings you a drink is paid a much lower hourly wage than the one cleaning the bathroom, as allowed by US law, since the assumption is that bartenders and wait staff will be additionally compensated with tips.

On another forum elsewhere on T'internet, based on the suggested tipping rate given by several posters a few years ago I calculated the best job in the world was likely to be a luggage porter at JFK. I worked out that a moderately busy porter (and I assume they are) could expect to earn over $100K a year in tips, if people followed the suggestions of tipping.

qbrain Oct 30, 2009 2:24 pm


Originally Posted by tsastor (Post 12737468)
Hi,

planning another trip to the U.S. (California) and this time I would like to try not having to tip anyone during the entire trip.

Last time:
- used cab - had to tip
- stayed at Hiltons on breakfast inclusive rate, got coupons for breakfast, still had to tip
- tipped housekeeping
- stayed at Embassy Suites, tipped bartender during happy hour
- ate at restaurants, tipped waiter

Next time:
- will use airport shuttle / public transportation
- stay at HI Express, do I have to tip at breakfast?
- no need to tip housekeeping?
- eat only at fast food places (no table service) - no tip
- use minibar to take drinks down to the lounge - no tips
- fly an European airline, no need to tip for drinks in the lounge

How about that strategy :D ;) ?

Good strategy. For restaurants, you can get away with no tipping if you get your own food or it is buffet. So if the HI Express breakfast is buffet style, you are safe.

I wouldn't try to take drinks to the lounge. Standard tip for my area is a buck a drink, and drinks usually run about $5. Seems like a better deal than the minibar, if you want to be in the lounge. I can't think of anywhere public that you can go and have a alcoholic drink without tipping.

tsastor Oct 30, 2009 2:27 pm


Originally Posted by lili (Post 12739106)
I'm curious about your reasons for tipping housekeeping at the Hilton and not the Holiday Inn Express.

Hi, if you asked me you misunderstood my meaning. I tipped housekeeping at the Hilton because I thought that it was required as part of their wage. I've since learned - actually from a thread in the Hilton forum - that tipping housekeeping is not necessary even in the U.S.


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