Flying in different cabin than spouse
Jan 26, 2016, 2:07 am
#46
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Flying in different cabin than spouse
Wife and I are always in same cabin, typically F award tickets internationally. A few years ago, wife needed to take a paid flight to reach MM status on UA just before merger with CO. She bought Y and got instant mileage upgrade to J. I had to fly separately to destination, a day earlier. I flew F both ways, but first offered her the F return seat.
I disliked the experience of flying 14 hours in separate cabins, and will avoid it in the future. We have a lot of fun celebrating the onset and end of our vacations while inflight. Just can't do it right when seated apart.
I disliked the experience of flying 14 hours in separate cabins, and will avoid it in the future. We have a lot of fun celebrating the onset and end of our vacations while inflight. Just can't do it right when seated apart.
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Jan 26, 2016, 4:05 am
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Flying in different cabin than spouse
Well I have left my wife in the regular line to go through pre check by myself but now that we have a toddler I'd feel too guilty to go by myself.
As for on the flight we would probably alternate who gets up front each time.
As for on the flight we would probably alternate who gets up front each time.
Jan 26, 2016, 7:11 am
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Using award tickets we have 1 in F & 1 J both ways two different redemptions. If another F seat doesn't open we'll keep what we have. We haven't decided whether to fly in separate cabins or to make someone in J very happy. We've booked like this to visit the F lounges and have hope for another F seat.
Jan 26, 2016, 11:13 am
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I don't think this is sexist at all. Blame the sexist business world for typically sending men all over the world and collecting miles/points/status. If I was traveling all over the world and collecting miles/points/status as a woman, I would bump him up over myself on our one or two vacations a year too!
Jan 26, 2016, 12:32 pm
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Let me ask a variation: flying with wife and 8 year old daughter this summer, domestic 2 leg flight. I'm booked "F," they're coach. I was planning on letting my very well behaved 8 year old fly in my seat on one leg, and my wife on the other. What do people think about someone letting an 8 year old fly in F with both parents in the back? She's flown a lot, and behaves great on a flight. I figured I'd tell her 1 strike you're out, and ask the FA to alert me if she causes a problem, and she's back in coach with me.
I'm more confused about using my pre✔️ Without them.
I'm more confused about using my pre✔️ Without them.
Jan 26, 2016, 1:56 pm
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You don't seriously think it's no big deal to leave someone you care about standing alone in a long line so that you can breeze on through? Or, that it's OK to stand in an annoying line alone and watch someone you care about pass you by rather than keep you company in your shared line-waiting misery? Personally, I am happy to keep my friends and family company in a line up and have no desire to spend it alone (or leave them to spend it alone). If we're sharing a vacation/trip/whatever experience, that includes the transit as well as the destination. Hassle shared is hassle halved.
Yes, I do.
Minimize the aggregate pain, maximize the aggregate pleasure. If that means only one person gets the "good" experience at some point during the flight, well, we take the one over zero. We're adults and know that it is not because we hate the other person or want them to have a worse experience. That's just the way it works out some times.
The person in the easier/shorter line takes the bags and does something useful with the time saved, like refilling water bottles or such. The net is still a win for both of us.
Minimize the aggregate pain, maximize the aggregate pleasure. If that means only one person gets the "good" experience at some point during the flight, well, we take the one over zero. We're adults and know that it is not because we hate the other person or want them to have a worse experience. That's just the way it works out some times.
The person in the easier/shorter line takes the bags and does something useful with the time saved, like refilling water bottles or such. The net is still a win for both of us.
Jan 26, 2016, 2:21 pm
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Let me ask a variation: flying with wife and 8 year old daughter this summer, domestic 2 leg flight. I'm booked "F," they're coach. I was planning on letting my very well behaved 8 year old fly in my seat on one leg, and my wife on the other. What do people think about someone letting an 8 year old fly in F with both parents in the back? She's flown a lot, and behaves great on a flight. I figured I'd tell her 1 strike you're out, and ask the FA to alert me if she causes a problem, and she's back in coach with me.
I'm more confused about using my pre✔️ Without them.
I'm more confused about using my pre✔️ Without them.
Jan 26, 2016, 3:31 pm
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Yes it is. But I'm not a person ruled solely by logic, and I have emotional connections to some people that are important to me (and to them).
Jan 26, 2016, 7:06 pm
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I would say that hassle shared is hassle doubled, actually.
I also have emotional connections with people that are important to me. Those emotional connections don't require me being in physical proximity to them at all times, allow me to be happy when they have a more enjoyable experience than me (and vice versa), and generally are not reliant on us standing in lines together.
I get that different people have various preferences, and that's fine. But please don't take your own opinion that being separated from your companions is such a big deal and impose it on others who feel it is not.
I get that different people have various preferences, and that's fine. But please don't take your own opinion that being separated from your companions is such a big deal and impose it on others who feel it is not.
Jan 26, 2016, 8:50 pm
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Let me ask a variation: flying with wife and 8 year old daughter this summer, domestic 2 leg flight. I'm booked "F," they're coach. I was planning on letting my very well behaved 8 year old fly in my seat on one leg, and my wife on the other. What do people think about someone letting an 8 year old fly in F with both parents in the back? She's flown a lot, and behaves great on a flight. I figured I'd tell her 1 strike you're out, and ask the FA to alert me if she causes a problem, and she's back in coach with me.
I'm more confused about using my pre✔️ Without them.
I'm more confused about using my pre✔️ Without them.
Jan 27, 2016, 12:33 am
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Sometimes, my mom tags along with my dad for his business trips, and since he has to head to meetings straight off the plane, she insists that he take his paid for business class ticket so he can have a productive meeting. Her reasoning is that it's more important for him to be well rested so he can work to provide for the family while for her, it's a purely pleasure trip.
Though for the most part, my parents rarely travel together as they have different schedules, and they'd prefer the house to not be left alone for too long if they can help it.
Though for the most part, my parents rarely travel together as they have different schedules, and they'd prefer the house to not be left alone for too long if they can help it.
Jan 27, 2016, 2:02 am
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If my husband or I got an upgrade from J to F I don't know who would sit in it. He wouldn't automatically give it to me and I would not expect him to.