“Do You Know Who I Am?”: The Definitive Thread of DYKWIA Stories
Dec 21, 2016, 9:22 am
#7666
Join Date: Apr 2011
Posts: 3,394
As between me and the Significant Hazard, my upgrades are mine alone, which makes sense insofar as (a) they are earned by me, and (b) makes sense given our relative dimensions; she's svelte and I'm built like a nose tackle.
I don't normally feed the trolls but I'm going to have to take umbrage OP's fantastically pigheaded argument.
My wife gets the upgrade because she has fibromyalgia, and is a tremendous amount of pain most days, and the few times a year I can talk her into going somewhere, anything I can do to make her more comfortable I'm going to do. I chose to simply state it in a humorous fashion because I don't like to bum people out with my problems.
But that's probably not a worry to him as that's a woman's problem and probably not worth his time.
Dec 21, 2016, 9:27 am
#7667
Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 2,042
FWIW, there are plenty of examples on here of female frequent flyers who, when travelling with their male, non-elite significant other, will give him the upgrade. It doesn't have anything to do with chivalry or gender hierarchy. It has to do with the person who's been there and seen that giving something nice to a person who doesn't experience it regularly, and an acknowledgement that air travel is massively disruptive and stressful for people who aren't doing it on a regular basis.
We more frequently see a husband giving an upgrade to his wife quite simply because the vast majority of elite flyers are male.
We more frequently see a husband giving an upgrade to his wife quite simply because the vast majority of elite flyers are male.
Last edited by Tizzette; Dec 21, 2016 at 9:52 am
Dec 21, 2016, 9:30 am
#7668
Join Date: Jun 2014
Posts: 960
For any reason, hubby didn't agree with this marvelous idea..
Dec 21, 2016, 9:30 am
#7669
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: BNA/SAN
Programs: DL PM 1.5 MM , Hilton Diamond, Marriott Lifetime Plat
Posts: 754
I tried to get my wife to take it, she told me to take it and in the end, I just passed on it and took my original seat next to her. All the way from SAN - ATL I got an ear full about how I should have taken the seat because I was taller, etc. so I told her I'd never let that happen again.
Next leg, also got an upgrade offer again. Told my wife I'd see her when we landed. LOL
Dec 21, 2016, 9:50 am
#7670
Join Date: May 2015
Location: DCA
Programs: AA EXP, DL FO, Marriott Titanium
Posts: 6,712
Dec 21, 2016, 10:47 am
#7671
Join Date: Dec 2014
Location: home airport RSW
Programs: Delta Plat, Marriott Life Gold, ***Princess Status***
Posts: 875
Dec 21, 2016, 11:05 am
#7672
FlyerTalk Evangelist
Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: ATL
Programs: DL Scattered Smothered Covered Medallion, Some hotel & car stuff, Kroger Plus Card
Posts: 10,745
Why deal with this question at all when you can just WFBF or not request the upgrade at all if sitting in a particular place is that important to you?
Dec 21, 2016, 11:08 am
#7673
FlyerTalk Evangelist
Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: SEA (the REAL Washington); occasionally in the other Washington (DCA area)
Programs: DL PM 1.57MM; AS MVPG 100K
Posts: 21,373
Dec 21, 2016, 11:31 am
#7674
FlyerTalk Evangelist
Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: ATL
Programs: DL Scattered Smothered Covered Medallion, Some hotel & car stuff, Kroger Plus Card
Posts: 10,745
Dec 21, 2016, 12:57 pm
#7675
Join Date: Dec 2012
Posts: 814
Very true. Which is why the rest of us have to be on guard that we don't tolerate this behavior if we don't have to. It's hard for descent folks to understand how some people can do the things they do and not feel bad about it. Bernie Madoff comes to mind.
Dec 21, 2016, 1:02 pm
#7677
FlyerTalk Evangelist
Join Date: Jul 2010
Programs: AA
Posts: 14,741
I wouldn't because that just rewards the bad behavior. But I would've pulled out my supply of earplugs and visibly offered them to everyone around me.
I wouldn't be surprised if she's pulled this before and people have given in, just like people that are always running late for the airport because "someone will always let you in front of them if your flight is about to take off."
I wouldn't be surprised if she's pulled this before and people have given in, just like people that are always running late for the airport because "someone will always let you in front of them if your flight is about to take off."
Dec 21, 2016, 1:40 pm
#7678
Suspended
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: MEM
Programs: Starbucks Green Card
Posts: 5,431
Dec 21, 2016, 1:45 pm
#7679
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: SE USA
Programs: DL DM/MM , IHG Plat, MR Titanium, HH Gold, EK Frequent Kettle, UA Silver, AA Hater
Posts: 2,020
Dec 21, 2016, 1:45 pm
#7680
Join Date: Jul 2009
Programs: none
Posts: 1,669
Changing the subject a bit.
A Play in One Act
The Players
Passenger A: (name unknown, just call him "Hole") Standing in the aisle.
Passenger B: (name unknown) Sitting in the aisle seat.
FA: (You know who that is)
Time: 5 minutes before takeoff
Place: Coach Section of a domestic flight
At the scene begins, A and B are exchanging words that are unintelligible. A shows B his ticket; B shows A his ticket. More discussion. Hand gestures. B doesn't move. Other passengers start to notice and listen. Lights come up as A summons FA. (Note: You may have seen this before and know where it's going)
Enter FA
FA looks at both boarding passes, (To both), "It looks like you both have the same seat assignment". (To A), "He's already sitting there. There are open seats toward the front. Would you mind moving?"
Passenger A, "But I reserved it first. My secretary reserved this seat for me a month ago, and that's I want. I will not move."
FA (to B), "Would you like to move?"
Passenger B (To FA), "Sure." (B gets up and moves to FC. A sits down with a smug look, knowing that he stood up for his rightful seat.)
THE END
A Play in One Act
The Players
Passenger A: (name unknown, just call him "Hole") Standing in the aisle.
Passenger B: (name unknown) Sitting in the aisle seat.
FA: (You know who that is)
Time: 5 minutes before takeoff
Place: Coach Section of a domestic flight
At the scene begins, A and B are exchanging words that are unintelligible. A shows B his ticket; B shows A his ticket. More discussion. Hand gestures. B doesn't move. Other passengers start to notice and listen. Lights come up as A summons FA. (Note: You may have seen this before and know where it's going)
Enter FA
FA looks at both boarding passes, (To both), "It looks like you both have the same seat assignment". (To A), "He's already sitting there. There are open seats toward the front. Would you mind moving?"
Passenger A, "But I reserved it first. My secretary reserved this seat for me a month ago, and that's I want. I will not move."
FA (to B), "Would you like to move?"
Passenger B (To FA), "Sure." (B gets up and moves to FC. A sits down with a smug look, knowing that he stood up for his rightful seat.)
THE END