I believe that if someone really is comfortable about the way they live, they won't have a problem listening to a stranger telling them otherwise and just forgetting about it in a hearbeat.

Personally I think it would be better for society at large if people spoke up what the thought about the behavior of others more often. It doesn't mean that you have to follow everything you are being told, but it would give you some "precious" hints about what is going on.

HTB.

My teenage self, deeply unhappy about being so skinny and underdeveloped, thanks you for being considerate enough to tell me that I'm too thin and should eat more.

My husband, who has eczema, also relishes it when well meaning folks enter into conversation with him about how he should avoid dairy produce or not eat oranges or any of the other well meant golden nuggets of unsolicited and worthless advice.

Some of us have to deal with this crap constantly. It's not like being offered a massage when you have a headache or offering someone some zinc/fresh raspberries when they have a cold, or proffering a tissue when a stranger is coughing or sneezing.

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I get well meaning emails all the time by people who are deeply concerned about the size of my penis and who want to help me enlarge it. But, hey! I'm very happy with the size of mine so there's no reason whatsoever that I should develop a complex about it.

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I simply cannot believe that people actually feel it's OK to go up to a complete stranger and tell them anything like this.

I hope those people walk up to every smoker they encounter and confront them with the news that smoking is killing them. Somehow I doubt that's happening.

"Mother? Is that you?" is my favourite response to such comments...

It's amazing how many "experts" there are who don't have a life of their own, and so consider it their mission to tell others how to live. Whatever happened to minding one's own business? (Otherwise known as "good manners".)

If you can practice in the mirror, raised eyebrows and a frosty; "I beg your pardon?" repeated as often as necessary should manage to finally make them realize that they are being rude.

Then again, so many boorish people cannot conceive of the fact that it is their manners at fault.

Or, my brother's response: One raised eyebrow, looking down the nose, very haughty... "Do I KNOW you?"

Or my teenage friend's: Said very loudly while looking very nervous, "My mommy told me not to talk to strangers." then whispered, "Are you a stranger?"

Well, freedom of speech does not mean you wont be in listening range of something you dont want to hear. There is no protection from stupidity or the jails would be as full as a mall during the Holidays.

You cant do Bomb jokes, or report a false report - best to ignore it. I have encountered the religious that will do anything to strike up a conversation. Or just busy bodies that wont take no for an answer. You may just have to walk away. Not right you have to, but there is no protection from hearing someone elses stupid speech (yet).

You'd better not decide that I need one of your "precious" hints!!! Mind your own business!

"Exercise, eat right, die anyway."



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[Glinda the Good]

You have no power here! Now begone, before somebody drops a house on you!

[/Glinda the Good]



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What? You mean he didn't wake up one day, go into the bathroom, look in the mirror an go, "Oh, NO!"



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Sounds like he was trying to help you out.

This is totally inappropriate. I wouldn't really say this sort of thing to a friend let alone a total stranger.

Y'know, that's her deal. I long ago tendered my resignation as General Manager of the Universe. If someone else wants to self-destruct via food-assisted suicide, or whatever, I will watch from the next barstool, but it ain't my problem. If someone wants to off themselves, fine; if they want to off themselves *and* take a bunch of other folks with them, that's a problem.

As SJC1K has correctly pointed out, fat/heavy people know they're fat/heavy. They don't need anyone telling them.

*shrugs*

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