Do you think this is acceptable? Feet almost in your space...
#34
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Yeah, people are being "too polite". If you don't let them know they're upsetting you, how would they find out?
#36
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Here's an example to illustrate a point. I walked into this bar and there was an empty seat so I sat down. I ordered a drink and not long after I hear this woman next to me speaking about me in third person. She being passive aggressive about me talking the seat instead of just telling me at the beginning that someone was sitting there. As I type this I realize I could have asked if seat was taken and I've done that in the past. This was several years ago so I'm thinking maybe she was facing the other way talking to someone so it wasn't clear anyone was sitting in this seat.
Regardless, I have this rule that I don't respond to passive aggressive behavior, probably because I grew up with a friend that used that behavior a lot. Now I figure if someone can't tell me directly what they want it's too bad for them.
I guess this woman was with some people and a guy who had been sitting in this seat. I remember her making comments about how she can't believe this guy (me) couldn't figure out someone was sitting there. They guy was too passive to say anything Be eventually she asked the bartender to ask for the seat back.
When he said someone was sitting there and asked if I would mind moving, I said okay cool. I said I didn't know that anyone was sitting there which was true initiallly.
Again, all she had to say originally was, "excuse me but some one is sitting the," and I would have ordered my drink and leFt.
As I said above, I see this theme a lot in these forums. The guy in the picture might not have even know his foot was bothering the OP.
#37
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#38
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This is fine, but if I am doing something complainable, I think it behooves me to change the behavior if a hint is given. I don't think it's asking too much to not stick ones feet in someone else's face, so the behavior like to OP should cease at the slightest hint that it is not appreciated. The bar seat as another matter. I'm a person who needs to sift position frequently and this often involves the desire to put my feet somewhere that isn't technically under my control. I try to be aware if I am encroaching, and a sign from someone else generally prompts me to be more aware. It's called getting along with other people.
#39
Join Date: Sep 2015
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This is fine, but if I am doing something complainable, I think it behooves me to change the behavior if a hint is given. I don't think it's asking too much to not stick ones feet in someone else's face, so the behavior like to OP should cease at the slightest hint that it is not appreciated. The bar seat as another matter. I'm a person who needs to sift position frequently and this often involves the desire to put my feet somewhere that isn't technically under my control. I try to be aware if I am encroaching, and a sign from someone else generally prompts me to be more aware. It's called getting along with other people.
Like if I am bothering someone else next to me, I'd like to know, too. Don't just take picture and complain about it later to strangers on internet.