Motion Passed 8-0-1: Amendment to TB Guidelines
#31
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When one person engages in purposely disruptive and attention-seeking behavior, it's a bit much to ask the rest of us to maintain respect for that person. And, in fact, it became quite clear over the course of this year that many of us had lost respect, and the collegial atmosphere was lost. Nevertheless, we continued to plod along, devising changes to our procedures that would prevent one TalkBoard member from interfering with the good volunteer work that the rest of us wanted to do.
You may believe -- and you are entitled to believe -- that comity and collegiality trump everything else. I do not. I ran for TalkBoard to actually accomplish something occasionally. When one person repeatedly stood in the way of that goal, I reacted. And I was far from alone. Everything that I said and did over the past two years was intended to make FlyerTalk a better place, and I did that, despite various obstacles.
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You may believe -- and you are entitled to believe -- that comity and collegiality trump everything else. I do not. I ran for TalkBoard to actually accomplish something occasionally. When one person repeatedly stood in the way of that goal, I reacted. And I was far from alone. Everything that I said and did over the past two years was intended to make FlyerTalk a better place, and I did that, despite various obstacles.
Bruce
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Yes, it is. But we have no control over who gets elected, and a person who decides to be disruptive may well succeed in that goal.
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I disagree, but that's OK.
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I see so TB members can choose to ignore TB Guidelines they don't like if there are personality conflicts you're saying. Why amend TB Guidelines then if they aren't to be followed?
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Nobody has ignored, as you suggest, Talkboard guidelines. Civility does not equal never ever disagreeing. You need to examine your own standards.
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Same as the TB did last time one of its members was purposefully gumming up the works.
IMHO and YMMV!
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That's a hazard we all need to consider, especially if the problem is likely to continue.
I encountered an extreme example two days ago in real life. At a store an obviously mentally ill customer was berating the check-out clerk incomprehensibly. The clerk said nothing in response, finally handing the customer the receipt saying "Have a nice day". The customer left, muttering more complaints nobody could understand.
Had the clerk engaged in any debate the argument would probably have escalated, possibly requiring summoning the police. This way the situation ended as well as it could have. It was unpleasant for the clerk and for other customers like me, but it did not become dangerous.
The point is that sometimes quietly tolerating a tense situation is actually the best you can do.
I encountered an extreme example two days ago in real life. At a store an obviously mentally ill customer was berating the check-out clerk incomprehensibly. The clerk said nothing in response, finally handing the customer the receipt saying "Have a nice day". The customer left, muttering more complaints nobody could understand.
Had the clerk engaged in any debate the argument would probably have escalated, possibly requiring summoning the police. This way the situation ended as well as it could have. It was unpleasant for the clerk and for other customers like me, but it did not become dangerous.
The point is that sometimes quietly tolerating a tense situation is actually the best you can do.
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Originally Posted by bdschobel
Nobody has ignored, as you suggest, Talkboard guidelines. Civility does not equal never ever disagreeing. You need to examine your own standards.
That's a hazard we all need to consider, especially if the problem is likely to continue.
I encountered an extreme example two days ago in real life. At a store an obviously mentally ill customer was berating the check-out clerk incomprehensibly. The clerk said nothing in response, finally handing the customer the receipt saying "Have a nice day". The customer left, muttering more complaints nobody could understand.
Had the clerk engaged in any debate the argument would probably have escalated, possibly requiring summoning the police. This way the situation ended as well as it could have. It was unpleasant for the clerk and for other customers like me, but it did not become dangerous.
The point is that sometimes quietly tolerating a tense situation is actually the best you can do.
I encountered an extreme example two days ago in real life. At a store an obviously mentally ill customer was berating the check-out clerk incomprehensibly. The clerk said nothing in response, finally handing the customer the receipt saying "Have a nice day". The customer left, muttering more complaints nobody could understand.
Had the clerk engaged in any debate the argument would probably have escalated, possibly requiring summoning the police. This way the situation ended as well as it could have. It was unpleasant for the clerk and for other customers like me, but it did not become dangerous.
The point is that sometimes quietly tolerating a tense situation is actually the best you can do.
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Sadly that doesn't seem to case as more TB dysfunction on display during the election for all to see here.
I'm for 100% transparency and accountability. I'm on record as wishing there was no private TB forum (but understand that's never going to happen). I will vote for others who share this view. Clearly several candidates do not.
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Completely agree.
Completely disagree. Perhaps you can explain given what's clearly written in the TB Guidelines as to member terms of conduct why you feel it necessary to resort to name calling and snark.
If that involves snarkiness or name calling, I won't apologize.
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When a TalkBoard member is being intentionally disruptive and "gumming up the works," as I have said, then the general membership has a right to know what is causing delays and other problems. That is not the same at all as "name-calling." I confess that some of us became a bit snarky when publicly (and privately) discussing the situation. I am not going to defend snarkiness, obviously, but can we please stop acting like TalkBoard members are delicate flowers who shrivel up and die at the slightest criticism? We are big boys and girls. We can -- and have -- dealt with this situation. It has had no perceptible impact on FlyerTalk in general. As far as I can tell, all of this complaining is essentially politicking: attempting to impugn the character of certain TalkBoard candidates. That's undeserved.
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There's a huge difference between random snark for no reason and being called on the carpet for shirking one's duty. That's part of being a team. Again, I want to be held to the same standard. If I don't pull my weight, tell me and the membership in no uncertain terms.
I sense that there's a lot of thin skin on the part of some folks running for office this year. What I want to know is, what are the newcomers planning to do if the perceived snark and name calling persist?
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Guess I should prepare myself to be a one-term member, as I don't plan to stop calling out TB members who fail to live up to their responsibilities to the membership. If you can't stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen. TB members should be held accountable. If that involves snarkiness or name calling, I won't apologize. I expect the same coming back to me. If I don't vote on an issue or find a way to hold a TB/FT process hostage, I would want someone to call me out publicly and make the membership aware of my actions.
I'm for 100% transparency and accountability. I'm on record as wishing there was no private TB forum (but understand that's never going to happen). I will vote for others who share this view. Clearly several candidates do not.
I'm for 100% transparency and accountability. I'm on record as wishing there was no private TB forum (but understand that's never going to happen). I will vote for others who share this view. Clearly several candidates do not.
(1) I would've eliminated the private forum years ago. Not my decision.
(2) The amendment that recently passed solved any perceived problem.
(3) What's the point of piling on the existing member, especially since that member is not up for re-election?