SkiAdcock

To the OP, found the thread I referenced above. There's a bit of a sidetrack in the middle but it does give lots of good advice:

http://www.flyertalk.com/forum/women...ling-moms.html

Cheers.

Consultette

As previously pointed out: who says that she would suddenly be under-performing? My firm allows women AND men the flexibility to travel whenever works for them as long as they are at the client when they need to be. If that means they want to wake up at 4am for a flight instead of flying out the night before so they can go to something for the kids, so be it.

Heck, as an unmarried woman without kids, if I wanted to go to a concert the night before and fly at 4am the next day no one gives a toss as long as I show up to the client bright-eyed and bushy tailed.

You obviously have some misconception that associates 9-5 face time with performance. Most of the time that is not the case.

dj506

If you are married, you need to consider how this will impact your husband. When my kids were about 8-10, I had a job that required 50% travel. After about a year, my husband raised his hand and said he felt like a single parent. He was also working a fulltime job and then had to get the kids to all of their events (baseball, Scouts, etc.) Make sure you and your husband work out those details as well so that he has support too.

kipper

This... Talk to your husband, and see how it will affect both of you. You may be able to relieve some of his extra responsibilities if you carpool with others to get the kids to events and such.

If you have family in the same area, they may be able to help too.

sucheng

So true! Don't let others sway you because you're the mother (parent, yes, but not JUST because you're a female parent!)

OP, I wouldn't deign to comment on the $ amount; only you (and your family) can judge whether the money alone makes it worth it.

My opinion is that it's a lot more complicated than just the money - what's the other impact on your partner (if you have one), your kids, yourself, your longer term career prospects. Certainly, more money helps - it can buy babysitting, housekeeping, pre-cooked meals, shuttle services, etc.

FWIW, I am considering similar options, and weighing trade-offs too (see my comments on the other thread.)

Dianne47

First, I agree with others that this question wouldn't come up if the OP was a man.

I have lived this question. I became a single mother when my daughter's father decided he didn't want to be married anymore, my child was 14 months old. I had a fabulous job, did a fair amount of travel, but could afford a full-time nanny and my mother came to visit every other month.

Push came to shove when my job was eliminated and I was offered a transfer to another state with a new job at considerable increase in pay and prestige within the company. I had to say no, because the new position would've included constant travel. I felt it would have severely impacted my daughter. So I had to quit my dream company, forgo the dream job, and move on.

I was unable to ever find a comparable job (this was in the early 1990s). Instead, I started my own consulting business. I never made a lot of money, but I was content because I could get by and my daughter benefitted from having me home most of the time. I have never regretted turning down more money and prestige for the better benefit of my child. She is now 25 and is a military wife, mother, and starting her own business.

Decisions like these have much much impact on a family. Think carefully before you act.

JenFree2013

Hi there, I would agree on this. Knowing where you stand can give you an idea where everything will drop off... at this time expenses are growing and no one really knows what will happen next. Just be prepared.