Just thought I'd share a relatively recent experience on a domestic flight. One FA (FA 1) chatted with me several times during the flight (he came to my seat each time), gave me complements, and gave me extra blankets (which I did not request) because he said "the cabin was cold". (But that was it, I didn't give him my card or gave him any personal info). Then, towards the end of the flight, we were handed a survey of which I happily completed and handed it to ANOTHER FA (FA 2). And, just last week, I received an e-mail from FA 1 asking me out and confessed that he got my e-mail from the survey...I basically am shrugging my shoulders over this, but my boss said I should write to HQ (I think that's a little extreme). What are your thoughts?

I guess it depends on whether or not you want to accept the date offer...

Personally, I would not be happy to know that someone took my personal information off of a document that was meant for another purpose. He could have just asked you for your contact information.

I am sure UA HQ would not be happy to be told about this incident.

William

Just chill out and take it as compliment - if he was cute give us his contact details.

Inappropriate, but i doubt i'd report him, that's a bit harsh, but maybe i'm only being sympathetic because he liked you.

He paid you a compliment. He contacted you in the only way he knew how. While it probably wasn't appropriate, it certainly was malicious. Enjoy the stroke to your ego and let it go.

No, definitely don't tell HQ. That's ridiculous. I can personally testify to the fact that some FA's are prone to flirting with the passengers, however unprofessional or even obnoxious as it can be... but don't get the poor guy in trouble just cos you aren't interested in the offer. Have a heart!

It wasn't appropriate, except maybe in a movie since there really is something cute about it. But that is the romantic in me. Unfortunately, times have changed and we've had to become [or FEEL we've had to become] so protective of privacy in our society. But I would be flattered and leave it at that. Only if he continued to e-mail you after you asked him not to should you report him.

I would say perhaps his original purpose of contacting you was innocent.

If he turns out to be a psycho and harasses you via email, then sure.. it's another story.

I agree with Izzik--it was inappropriate, but the purpose was innocent; don't follow up to HQ unless a further problem develops, since the punishment from HQ could be very severe.

In fact, I think I'd reply to warn him off this behavior in the future. Something like:

Dear FA,

Thanks for your e-mail. I'm very flattered, but although you're attractive I'm afraid I'm already in a relationship(/you're just not my type/whatever).

Actually, it's probably a bad idea to e-mail passengers if you get their e-mail address from those surveys. I'm not going to report this to HQ, but there's a risk that if someone did--say, a homophobic straight person you mistook for gay--it could cause you severe problems.

BKKboy

--but then, that's me, and I tend to be both gentle and wordy.

Bestill my heart!

I would concur with the others here. Although what he did was inappropriate, no harm was done. I think writing him back and telling him you are not interested along the lines of SJC1K's suggestions would not be a bad idea. If he pursues you further after that contacting HQ could be an option, but for now I'd say enjoy the compliment and go on with your day.

What's interesting is that, honestly, I would have a totally different opinion if it were a straight male hitting on a woman. I guess it's becasue women have to put with so much more of this and it's much more often unwanted (probably simply because something in your response and chatting told him you were gay which might have been a sign that you didn't mind the attention).

So, no, I wouldn't report it unless he starts harrassing you. But I would have reported it if he were conatcting female passengers. I'll let the accusations of sexism and double-standards begin.

It may be a double standard, but my take is the same. Don't ask me why, but if it was a straight male FA and a female pax, I would consider it harrassmet. But for gay male FA and gay male pax, I don't. Hey, who ever said I was logical?

Good comments so far...

Customer privacy is a very hot issue in society today and thus what the FA did was inappropriate. Even though its very innocent its still inappropriate.

I like SJC1K's idea about emailing and saying something like "thanks but no thanks and by the way dont do this again because XXXX" - keep it short and simple and even send it from an anonymous email account (like gmail, yahoo, whatever) to get it away from the email address you put on the survey.

The romantic in me says "WAHOO" to the FA for taking the chance since convert ops are really the only ways that some GLBTs have in asking someone out or whatever so...

I wouldnt report to HQ but I would send him the email.

Corey

People have done crazy things for love (at first sight).