I, too, would let the transgression slide unless it becomes a "stalker"-type situation where the FA doesn't take the hint and keeps e-mailing you. Oddly (or sadly) enough, I also agree with those who said if it was a male FA and a female pax, I'd view the situation as far more inappropriate and worthy of a note to HQ.

Did the OP ever say he was a gay male pax?

Its Only An Email

Was the survey sealed and were your particulars within? Just curious. It wouldn't be too hard to steal a glance if the survey wasn't sealed or if your contact info was on the outside. It still does not excuse the impropriety of his actions.

If I had gotten such an e-mail, my first reaction would be to grin like a Cheshire cat. I, too, am a hopeless romantic, and I would've interpreted such a gesture as very sweet and flattering, rather than an invasion of my privacy. Subsequent reactions could range from shock to horror - especially if you accept his invitation and the date goes awry - but I usually stick to my first one ;)

If you are offended by his invitation, I would just let it slide. Life is short and he took a chance. IMHO, I don't think he deserves to lose his job over that.

Women are not that innocent. I have been harrassed by plenty of them. Again, a non-ambiguous "No, thanks" is the most appropriate response in my opinion. If that is not respected, however, I can see a reason to report the behavior. Putting out an invitation/request/question that doesn't put a person on the spot is never wrong as long as the person's response is respected.

Impulsive Behavior
 

This is very interesting as I fall into the nothing ventured nothing gained category. I think it harmless but a couple of things came to mind after reading the OP and reading the comments. It is possible that the FA thought that he getting the green light from BKKBoy. I don't know because I was not there but perhaps the FA thought, hey, I have chatted with this guy several times, he seems nice and interested in me. Did FA1 have to ask FA2 to see the surveys and if so you would have thought FA2 would have cautioned his co-worker about sending the email. There are just far too many unknowns in the situation. The OP does not mention the duration of the chats, what they chatted about, etc. I am not trying to create drama, but for someone's boss to say that they should write to HQ so flippantly concerns me bit. This is someone's career we are talking about. The FA did not use good judgement of that there is not debate, is it worth him loosing his job over? I personally would not even email the FA. You risk sending this guy into panic mode, not to mention him emailing you back. The best thing IMHO is to let it drop.

Covert ops! Convert ops are what the religious right thinks we do. ;)

BKKBoy: If FA1 is a Singapore Boy, please forward his contact information to me privately. I'll handle the matter.

As for you, don't let it worry you.

like everyone else, i suppose its kinda good to know you are desired. For someone as young as me, below 30 and fly. I don't get picked up in flights and neither do i get courteous FA and sometimes, quite rare to find a nice one who isn't rude.Maybe cos im a minority.

Consider yourself lucky. If i were the op, i would invite the FA for a coffee.
But then again, some FAs especially Asian ones have been known to carry the deed a bit overboard.

Consider yourself lucky man!!! You scored an admirer.

Ahem, yes, if MegatopLover is too busy he can delegate the task to me. :rolleyes: :D

Why do I feel that this topic would be headed in a different direction in the Womans Forum.

I'd write the letter to the airline. Be general. Leave out your name if it makes you feel better. The airline needs to know what their employees are up to.

Dan is right!

<<rant on>>

C'mon you guys! Are you thinking with your big heads or your little ones? This FA was totally, 100%, out of line. Can you imagine, me as a waiter at a fancy hotel, getting your private info and contacting you? I would be fired immediately. As a matter of fact, I was hired because they trust me to NOT do that!

Yeah, the whole thing is cute in a way and gee, we all want to be thought of as attractive to the "galmorous FA's" but the thought of someone accessing my personal info that way is spooky. The fact that some of us think it is not ok for a guy to do this to a woman but it is ok for a guy to do this to a guy really galls me. That is why we men have a hard time with <wink, wink> sexual harrasment. :rolleyes: I quit a fancy butler job on my second day after I was sexually harrassed by the boss. Who was I gonna tell? :mad:

<<rant off>>

*Whew*

I mean, I hate to get the guy fired over this but I would send off a snail mail letter that "I filled out a survey on Flt XXX on such-and-such-a-date and was suprised to be emailed by a FA asking me for a date! The name is not important etc., etc."

What possible use would this be other than to provide another means for the FA to contact him?

I am glad you said this... I totally agree and would write a letter too....you are letting your ego get in the way of a clear violation of company policy by an employee....

UAL doesn't give a damn about the way its staff treats LGBT passengers. Trust me on this one.