Originally Posted by
Visconti
Right. While it's become almost second nature to some of us, those starting out with the fine dining experience (we all likely had gone through a similar learning curve), will likely need to rely on the waitstaff for some help.
I'd suggest it's the server's job, and what you tip for, at any restaurant. There's a burger place we had heard about in Michigan that we stopped in last summer. Lots of burgers on the menu, different sizes, sides, etc. When we said we need a couple minutes longer to look at the menu, the server said (paraphrased, because I really can't remember the specifics) "Sure, and these are a couple of our most popular burgers. Or if you like x, you might try this burger. And people love the seasoned fries." She then left us for a few more minutes to give us time to decide.
When we ate at Akelarre in Spain, I very much expected (and got) the server to explain every dish and any unique ingredients as it was served. Different expectations, but in both cases the server was a guide, not just merely a food carrier.