At the moment, maybe Blu Sushi

http://www.blusushi.com.cn/en/about.asp

The owner is Taiwanese and has brought in an excellent maitre with serious Hongkong resrautant and hotel experience.

Other than that, several good Korean places in Hongqiao. The best might be a smallish seafood restaurant inside a gated Korean residential area.

I am not a fan of Shanghai cooking but have been taken to a few very nice Cantonese seafood palaces.

As for hotels, the Hyland Sofitel has a great French style bar with small dishes to accompany wine and other drinks.

If your into trying some weird stuff

ala Travel Channel "Bizarre Foods" with Andrew Zimmerman

Have found cooked to order live snake and Guizhou donkey in Pudong.

Never seen available cat or rat as found in Guangdong or dog and silk worm larva as found in north China.

Not sure when my next trip to PVG will be but will definitely go back to Tian Jia! Thanks for the tip!

Anyone have an opinion on Three on the Bund? Thinking of doing a special dinner there with someone in the Copula -- is it worth it? and what are the chances of having a "haze" obscured view?

3OTB is great, with Laris being one of my favorites in town. Unless you really want the privacy of the Cupola, i would just reserve a table in one of their restaurants, Laris, Jean Georges, New Heights, or Whampoa Club (my preference in that order though i've never been to Whampoa Club). When you reserve a table just ask for one by the window. Reserve early. You'll get pretty much the same view and save quite a few RMBs. You shouldn't have too much of an issue with the haze, at least i've never had any...
The lights of Lujiazui are nice to see, and as they turn them off at different times depending on the day, you may want to get there no later than 7-8.

edit: and for other western dining on the bund, i used to be fan of M on the Bund, but that's all changed over the past year. Glamour bar for drinks is still ok.

I would put the Whampoa Club above New Heights, and depending on the day, JG above Laris, but it is all debatable.

All the places are from decent to very good, but don't expect Robuchon a Galera (now, that's something). NH has a nice outdoor terrace, if the weather is nice (even if cold, they have some heaters).