Hi. I realise the post below is somewhat detailed but this has been a source of considerable anxiety and I would be very appreciative if you took the time to read.

I am a male in my early 20s. Earlier this year my partner, who lives with me in the UK, got very ill and as a result it was decided that she best seek treatment in the US near her home and family. She is a US citizen.

I am a Bahraini citizen, in possession of a valid B1/B2 visa currently resident in the UK (but spending a very substantial amount of time in Bahrain). I am a student at a major British university, in my last year of my undergraduate course (and unofficially I hold a major role in our family business).

Since my partner left for the US, until she is well enough to return (probably January), I am planning on regularly travelling between Scotland and the US. I have already visited for 25 days recently, when the CPB officer just asked 'business or holiday?' to which I answered 'holiday' and was admitted. That was the entire conversation we had. I am slightly anxious given I am aware of the red flag that visiting your girlfriend can have- and I do not know if turning up at the same airport a month and a bit since my last visit would also be a red flag(?)

I have arranged with my university to facilitate a schedule that allows me to do this, and have a 23 day visit planned in October, which is what I am concerned about.

My plan for my time in the US is as follows: we will be spending 1 week at their vacation home in Maine, going horseriding, dining out, hiking, etcetera. We have a weekend planned in New York City, and we will also be visiting a friend of mine in Atlanta. The lion's share of the time will be spent, however, in my partner's family home (this is the address I plan to give CBP... bad idea?).

I can very easily obtain documents from my university that I am an enrolled student, I have just paid one year's rent upfront, and my father owns a major business in Bahrain... I have no reason to stay in the US, and if I ever wished to permanently move there I can legally obtain the correct documents without much hassle, and I would not dream of entering a country illegally or without obtaining the proper visa for the purposes of my visit first.

My only worry is what do I say to CPB if they ask more detailed questions, without putting myself at a disadvantage. I think it is very sad that I have to even consider all the above, given that I am just a man looking to do something perfectly legal, leave on time while spending a substantial amount of money in the US benefiting businesses, etcetera, but it is what it is.

For the record my passport is full of stamps and I hold valid visas for most major Western countries. Last time I felt a bit more comfortable as I was flying in paid F return, which I thought would hold up more if asked for a return ticket than my upcoming flight in Y.

I will not have a tremendous amount of cash on my person but do have multiple cards that can more than cover my expenses in the US.

Any advise would be deeply appreciated- this is making me a bit sleepless as I cannot afford to be disallowed entry into the US, and being put in such a situation would be disastrous!

Most important is that you should nt lie if they ask you questions. I'd perhaps bring copies of your lease -- plus payment receipts -- and other documentation showing ties outside the US just in case they ask.

Good advice from Xyzzy

Don't get caught telling a lie, and it will likely work out just fine. There is no reason to bring up family business ties, unless somehow they ask how you are paying for the trip.

With a roundtrip ticket showing departure after a 23 day stay and mentioning holiday, the odds of having an issue are slim, especially if flying into JFK/EWR.

Thanks for the information guys. I have been put under the impression that if they catch wind that I am visiting my partner they would give me a lot of trouble.

Is there going to be any issue due to the fact that I recently spent 3 weeks in the US and am returning after only 5 weeks overseas?

If vacation from school and/or the family business allowed time off in such a way, it shouldn't be a problem if it's clear when/how/why you are going to have to leave on time and have no reason to violate the terms of your visa.

I'm not an expert by any means, but would it pose a problem to say you're visiting a sick relative? Or a sick friend? (Either of these terms is defensible, it seems to me.)

Saying a sick relative is not what I would do. Saying a sick friend is also not what I would do. I would just keep it as vacation. If questions arise about place of stay, then mentioning the UK partner's family and various places booked for the stay would be what I would do. That is if I were not a US citizen/national or resident.

For longer duration sick relative stays, they may start thinking "home care worker", highly improbable as that is in a situation like this.

And why is that?

It seems to me as though "vacation" isn't really what the described travel is. If one is concerned about being truthful, wouldn't using that term potentially be problematic?

A trip that is not for business is one for leisure. That includes a VFR trip. I think saying holiday or visiting a friend is a perfectly acceptable description. In fact, they really don't have a right to ask about your friend's medical condition.

VFR travel is vacation travel for most of us.

Claiming to visit a sick person to stay with for a relatively long period of time and/or to stay with recurring frequency? That may bring up issues of possibly having a rather compelling reason not to leave on time and/or perhaps even take up home care worker roles.

The reason one must be careful in what one says at the border is that regardless of what visa or other permission one has received prior to travelling to the country, the immigration officer must make a determination of the traveler's intent for entering the country. Hence the variety of questions. If the officer believes the intent is other than what was proclaimed in obtaining the visa then the officer may deny entry.

Claiming to be a tourist but giving information that can be interpreted as a reason for conducting business or possibly a compelling reason to overstay is reason to deny entry.

Don't be evasive but don't give more information than is required while at the same time be truthful/accurate.

They have a right to ask absolutely anything they want to that has any bearing on why a visitor is seeking to enter the US. He could refuse to answer. They could then refuse to admit him if they are not satisfied that he is a bona fide visitor entering the country for the reasons he stated. But there's no HIPAA restriction or particular prohibition on them asking about health care issues.

If a visitor tells CBP "The purpose of my trip to the U.S. is to have surgery at the Cleveland Clinic," it's perfectly reasonable for them to ask what kind of surgery. And if the visitor says "I'm having a mole removed from my back" that would set off red flags and invite further questions because it's not the type of surgery that someone would normally fly across the world to have performed.

I'm not talking about someone's own medical condition. I'm talking about, as is in this case, the medical condition of a third party - a third party that also happens to be a US citizen. That is a HIPAA violation.

In other words, don't answer the question that wasn't asked.