ok - I admit I am a little confused here - - - black are segments from the Op's statements; my confusion is in BLUE - [/B]

let me add that ive asked these females to come out before afterwork and theyve gracefully said no....
they said no but you keep asking?????

i didnt make a big deal out of it ..
if you continue to ask does that not MAKE a big deal out of it?

i dont care.. well, if you don't care, why keep asking?

the girl obviously side tracked...
you admit she was "obviously side tracked", but still think you are entitled to the $100?.........under what rationale?

and i told her.. i dont want it if youre going to get in trouble.. shes like its already in the system..
if she can enter it that quickly, she should give up working for Marriott - she must be the fastest keyer known to mankind

im like "uh is that girl gonna get in trouble," hes like "yah".. then i was like "i dont want the money if people are going to get in trouble".. he cuts me off and says thats not the problem
well, if other posters are correct, the problem is NOT that she "forgot" the gift, it is that she agreed to go out with a customer....

....and asks me to sit down.. he started to go on with there are allegations, maybe it was a miscommunication....
seems to me he is giving you the benefit of the doubt as he is using the words allegations and miscommunication?????

he then goes on to patronize me "thanks, we try to take care of our platinum customers...he is patronizing you by thanking you?????

there was some vulgarity, i admit fault
vulgarity, do you think THIS might be why he met with you in a public place and not behind closed doors?????

.....numerous colleagues have seen them come to my room, hand deliver me notes, and even put their arms around me in the lobby... fine.. its flirting no big deal.. no interaction besides the one instance where a note was hand delievered to my room has happened outside of the front desk...
yes, I would think this girl (or girls) ARE in trouble - I have never read the Marriott employee manual, but I would think going to a guests room has to be in the REASON FOR DISMISSAL section! And how do they put their arms around you from behind the front desk????

he is a front desk manager who knew that my "friendliness" was an accusation
HOW does he know that?

i believe he shouldve taken the conversation to an office and not publicized the whole thing in front of the whole hotel
see vulgarity comment above.

the whole hotel staff looks at me like im some kind of pervert now
Perhaps, perhaps not - but this may be from what the GIRL said, not the manager .

,,,while everyone was looking at me knowing what was going on...HOW does everyone know what was going on? Was he speaking loudly? Rudely? Waving his arms around? Perhaps using vulgarity????

ive debated on whether to go to my project manager and let him know what happened so he can pull the 60+ people from there
I AM a project manager, and in this instance, I might pull my business from the property - but there could also be the chance I would pull some people off the business, if you get my drift.

where they make me out to be some perv.. think shell naturally side with her..
ok here's the big question - so there is a woman GM who you think will naturally side with her.......WHY WOULD YOU THINK THAT? I am a woman, and if I found out my female employees were going to rooms, passing notes, etc, I certainly would not blame the man involved for it! Working on your assumption that a woman is always going to side with another woman - well, then the front end manager should have sided with you, should he not? ..........

Grow Up. Lesson Learned. As rahmanbar says, in a business situation it is not only what you DO, but what it appears that you are DOING. There are not 2 sides to the story in a situation such as this - there is only HE said, SHE said. If you think your lobby conversation was embarrassing - imagine how "potential lawsuit" would play. There is no company who wants to be involved in this type of situation - consider that before you report it with the automatic expectation that your project manager will side with you.

They call it work for a reason. Keep it separate from playtime or you will experience these "misunderstandings" often - with possibly more severe repercussions. Who needs it?