That's not actually what I said. I said that I reserved the right to refuse admittance to a do for non FTers (whether because they have never joined, or because they've been told to leave), if I could foresee an issue. I'll look at each case individually. For partners of FTers, it is usually a given that they could attend. For banned former FTers, I'll investigate whether they want to attend to cause trouble, whether they have caused trouble at other dos etc, before making that decision. It's just another of those decisions that make do organisation such fun at times

Drawing this thread back on topic, since we've drifted off very far, some of which I'll hold my hands up to (my co-mods are frowning at me!), I think some of the previous discussion exemplifies why do organisation is so tiring, and why there is a certain wastage amongst do organisers. Dinners are probably (at least in my experience) the most vexed areas of do organisation, where people's expectations are least likely to mesh up - just as a few examples from Mega do - where before the do, we had someone complaining that we weren't taking everyone to a Michelin starred, £100/head type place, versus someone else who thought paying $20 for a dinner in London was outrageously expensive.... and then someone else who turned up in an Indian restaurant for dinner and only then told us they were allergic to coriander/cilantro

Do attendees - don't you just love 'em