Whew! I am so glad
Marysunshine that you have decided not to throw out the baby with the bathwater.
There is no question that their are some unfriendly types on FT. I have had folks make nasty posts about me, and met folks at DOs who were just as rude and nasty, in real life as they are on line, but putting up with (read ignoring) their foolishness is a small price to pay for the fabulous friends that I have made all around the world.
Heck, I was once even advised by a reall rudee that I was not welcome to attend a DO, which says a lot more about him than it does about me. You know what they say--"You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince".
Then, on the other hand, some of the finest, most wonderful, generous, and loving people I know are folks that I have me on FT, and they make it all worthwhile.
I guess FT is a lot like real life--you have to take the bad with the good.