Having just completed Madrid Milan Chicago I have to completely disagree with the OP heading that Alitalia is child unfriendly. We were booked into standard seats and when a flight attendant realized we had a 7 month old he made sure a bullkhead with bassanet was made available for us even if it meant moving passengers form the bulkhead.
I think the point of this post is that Alitalia has several rules different from the US mainly because of their laws. I don't like their no dvd/cd players rule and their no infants in a car seat on takeoff rule but I do like their reservations and flight staff attitudes towards children, their use of special belts rather than just holding infants in arms, and their advance reservation of bulkheads.