I couldn't tell you which ones, but I certainly recall being on flights in Y where the air hostess has made an announcement the meal service is beginning and asked folks to bring their seats up so everyon has adequate rooom to eat. This always seemed more than reasonoable to me given the tight quarters in Y.
As for a flight attendant waking me up to ask me to bring my seat up: Are you kidding? I have a hard enough time sleeping on planes and if the F/A woke me up so 4F could be a little more comfy with eating, I would have immediately refused without a second thought. If told I was being rude, I'd likely have complained to management.