OP, if you've spent virtually every night over the past few years at a hotel, I can understand why you would need certain things to be just so. I also agree that a one-sided story can be unfair. But then so is your account.

You've made it clear that you don't hesitate to confront people. I appreciate that and, and not to get all Petersonian here, the world does need people high on the trait disagreeableness, in certain circumstances anyway. I do worry that you don't fully appreciate how that comes across sometimes. Certainly hotel staff have other and better things to do than leave negative comments about guests. So what was it that compelled them to take the time and do those write-ups? Is it because they are mean, petty and vindictive? It's possible, and that seems to be your perspective (which, respectfully, smacks of projection a wee bit), but doubtful. I tend to think it's your "east coast" personality, whatever the hell that means. I think it's unfair to the many wonderful Mainers I know, as is the implication that that it's those snowflakes' fault for not being able to handle it. More than anything, it's just a poor excuse for being unnecessarily abrasive.

I doubt that the choking incident and the food spillage in and of themselves had much to do with the "concierge woman" (by the way that has a terrible ring to it, and this is coming from someone who's been accused of sexism on these very pages) posting a comment. I guarantee it was what you did and said in the aftermath, the bit you described as "call[ing] her out on it".

By the way, asking a hotel to get their engineer to monkey around with the motion detection system in order to disable it is something not the norm, and not only "in her mind".