To the OP,
Please be very careful about putting out sensitive personal information like this online to protect your self and children from retaliation of any kind.
I suggest you discuss the issue of reimbursement opportunities first and foremost with your attorney.
It could take a while but judges in marital dissolution cases may agree to rule in your favor for the spouse to be the one to reimburse you.
I am sorry you are in this sad predicament.