What's the protocol if you're in a similar situation?
I've yet to have a bad TSA experience, so it's long overdue. Can you insist any of these intimate searches are done in public, so as to make sure people can see exactly what they're doing and hopefully cause the TSA to tone down their poking?
Can they force a private room even if you decline?
If forced with 'we're strip searching you or you can't get on your flight', is that it? Any recourse? Or are those the only two options?