IIRC Dorchester was "disliked" because of the brunei position on the gay ?
Is it true that he bought the BH hotel to ease his daughter wedding ?[/QUOTE]

Excactly. The other ones are also not well known for being over the top tolerant. The position to gays is only the icing on the top. If we start with this the list of "ethical correct" properties and vacation-spots comes down to not too many.