Decided to check out all 4 of the "major" try them with the Bose NC and see what felt best
1)
Jpillow - comfy but no go with headphones
2)
Travelrest - weird - not sure what you do with the long thing (maybe hug it?)
3)
Trtle soft - this one had a possibility of using with headphones, I didn't like the support seemed a little shaky.
4)
Cabeau Evolution - I liked this one the best - I could use the Bose if I turned them sideways - so the band of the headphones was at the back
So returning the others and keeping the Cabeau - some long flights coming up will report back