Originally Posted by
Finkface
I fly a lot more than Mr. Fink does, all in premium cabins. He thought this 'hobby' of mine was silly until he had his first true premium experience 3 years ago flying CX business class, followed by many more great C/J and F products. I created a monster and since then he's been hooked. He enjoys it even more than me, especially the top shelf booze (I don't drink) and the food (I don't eat meat or fish so it's lost on me), while for me, it's all about the seat/pod and just being on a plane. We both love the lounges. So if we only got one upgrade, it would go to him as he just enjoys the entire experience so much. He works hard and I just love to see him enjoy something so much. It makes me happy to make him so happy.
This is what happened with me and Mrs. Lee.
I honestly don't get the "always give it to your wife" thing. If the wife is the one that travels all the time and often gets upgraded, why not treat the husband?
On a quick domestic we'll often split up and just switch off who is in J/F and who stays in Y. Unless the F seat is not a window, in which case Mrs. Lee keeps her window in coach. There is no "wife must always get the better option" thing. We are reasonable adults and both enjoy the comfort of an F seat as well as giving each other the nicer thing. She also understands that if I am joining her on a vacation after a long work trip in Y, I may value the F seat more than her in that moment.
On longer flights we'll decline the solo upgrade to sit together. This is usually fine since a) we purposely try to book equipment on these flights with a two-year window/aisle config in Y, and b) for the really long flights, we book in F/J to begin with.