As a woman, I am so sorry that the OP had to suffer for the woman's manipulation of her right to breastfeed. I don't know the answer. It is true that women who breastfeed have been leered at and made uncomfortable. That does not make it right for a woman to manipulate the situation. I am sorry but I do not see a way for the OP to have won when he should have been able to save his seat. Maybe in the future.