SOunds like you did not handle this well. I would think at your age you would know better unless you have never flown before. And refusing to speak to her without an apology might be considered a safety issue under dire circumstances. Sorry to say no sympathy from me.
I brought up three children and told every one of them : if a police officer stops you for any reason...answer "yes sir", no matter what. Sometimes it's not wise to argue for any reason.