Thank you for your replies. I have done extensive research but have not found my exact answer. I understand that if I opt out of both I may be subject to arrest, and while I don't want to be arrested, I'd be okay if was for exercising my 4th amendment. I wont bother going to the airport and forfeit the non-refundable tickets if metal detectors are not in the equation. If they are used, we start with a 50-50 chance (then factor for the attractiveness).

I unfortunately have to take the chance if there is one. My kids (16 yr old boy and a 10 yr old girl) have to see their father as per our visitation agreement. We purchased these tickets pre-tsa changes (and not knowing anything about them). While their father feels the same way as I do about the new procedures and will opt-out as well, I feel I have to take the risk because the alternative is driving 2500mi (their dads tires are bald so I have to do two 1250mi roundtrip) in the winter.