Originally Posted by
jpatokal
One rite that does live on is that, after the cremation, any remaining bones are picked out with chopsticks, passed around from chopstick to chopstick by attending family members (hence the taboo), and then laid in an urn. However, this is only for the immediate family.
Doesn't the passing go from youngest to oldest, with the oldest placing the remains into the container? I think that I've heard that, but have never actually witnessed this part of the ceremony.