flyingdutchman2010

Sometimes I think I'm addicted to travel. Anyone else here feels the same? Is this travel addiction an illness? Am I sick??? Should I see a doctor urgently? Who knows the answer here?

Kiwi Flyer

If you are wanting to be cured, Flyer Talk is the wrong place for you

OTOH, it is great to feed travel addicts (and make it more affordable/comfortable).

Dovster

Seeing as The Flying Dutchman is a ghost ship, it may be too late to see a doctor.

Palal

Take a break, focus your attention on something else, come back and enjoy some more

mkt

I'm on a reduced travel break... one of the best ideas I've had in a long time. I've forgotten how great it is to live in a tropical island.

CMK10

I was feeling somewhat hopeless and at a loose end, like every day and week coming up was the same until I booked a trip today. Now I have something to focus on, and plan on, and look forward to

nkedel

Well, per my usual response: you've just found the support group.

OTOH, is it an addiction, or a habit? I usually joke that "I work to support a travel habit," but I can quit any time I want to (and have, at times, for financial reasons. I just don't want to.)

gfunkdave

Sounds like you either need a new drug or a new wife.

Richard Chen

Had a similar issue as I married last year with a significant redirection of funds from $13k & 75k mi flown to $2k & just 1 family trip. While it's tough & very aggravating to adjust, ultimately my family comes first & I am glad I could've done as much as I did for as long as I did. Redirecting the planning & funds attentiveness to family has proven equally satisfying. Now let's hope my kids have the travel bug, too, so we get back on the horse .

nkedel

This was a good thread. Thanks for exhuming it; let's see if anyone else contributes, or if it returns to the slumber of ages.

chgoeditor

I reread it and enjoyed it, too, though clearly I followed it and contributed to it back when I began. Sadly, my quick skim of the OP's posting history didn't seem to offer any insights into how things played out.

Jeannietx

Unless I missed it, there was never a solution or compromise?

FWIW I don't believe in either spouse dictating what the other can do. If it's at that point, a marriage counselor and/or attorney would be consulted.

We travel together and we travel separately. Forbidding? Not in my lifetime.

darthbimmer

Interesting thread. I'm surprised I didn't come across it years ago when it was fresh. My situation is not exactly like the OP's but there are a few elements in common.

My observations are:

1) OP seems to have an addictive behavior. While it's far from the most destructive addiction out there, OP would benefit from seeking professional counseling on it.

2) OP displays no understanding of his wife's concerns. I'm not sure he can even identify them, let alone understand them. This is a major communications gap. The fact that it's gone on so long makes me think the problem is beyond simply, "Sit down and talk to each other." They need couples counseling.

3) The suggestion that OP lie to his wife about his trips is a terrible idea. Such a breach of trust is not how one builds or maintains a successful, long term relationship.

superangrypenguin

I took some me time and booked a trip for myself and went without my wife. It was awesome me time. I needed it. I paid for it when I got back though

Kagehitokiri

plenty of people, including americans, travel with their kids everywhere, and i mean everywhere, on all budgets