Sexism at the border: a personal account
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Sexism at the border: a personal account
Here's an interesting one. There must be more to it than rifling through her underwear and commenting on her possession of condoms. Would be interesting to have some more background information.
http://rabble.ca/news/2013/04/sexism...rsonal-account
http://rabble.ca/news/2013/04/sexism...rsonal-account
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I'm a little confused by the article, just in that she admits that she's going to sleep in the same hotel bed with her married male traveling companion, and that his wife knows about it. Then she gets coy and doesn't explain what is, you must admit, a unique situation there. Is the idea that this has something to do with the book she's writing? Or does the guy have an open marriage or something? I feel like I missed an explanatory sentence somewhere.
I get the part about customs being sexist and abusive and that it's none of their business, but it seems to me that if you're going to lay out a scenario like that in a story, it bears explaining in some detail. If it's also none of my business as a reader, then maybe it's not worth writing an article.
I get the part about customs being sexist and abusive and that it's none of their business, but it seems to me that if you're going to lay out a scenario like that in a story, it bears explaining in some detail. If it's also none of my business as a reader, then maybe it's not worth writing an article.
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Polyamorous relationships do exist, probably way more than some may wish to admit.
It may be both.
Men who travel with such count of condoms are as frequently treated the same way by CBP as women? No.
Men who travel with such count of condoms are as frequently treated the same way by CBP as women? No.
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I'm a little confused by the article, just in that she admits that she's going to sleep in the same hotel bed with her married male traveling companion, and that his wife knows about it. Then she gets coy and doesn't explain what is, you must admit, a unique situation there. Is the idea that this has something to do with the book she's writing? Or does the guy have an open marriage or something? I feel like I missed an explanatory sentence somewhere.
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Maybe the married man is her brother. Maybe it's her best friend. Maybe he's legally separated from his wife. Maybe it's none of border control's business.
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If I was writing a book and wanting to get some publicity, well.......never mind. I'm sure that is not the case.
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It depends whether you think the point of the article is the actions of CBP or not. Personally, I thought it was pretty clear she was writing about CBP. Why should you (or I or CBP) give a crap about her personal moral code, let alone the details of her life, that have nothing to do with CBP and transiting the US.
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Whoever knowingly transports any individual in interstate or foreign commerce, or in any Territory or Possession of the United States, with intent that such individual engage in prostitution, or in any sexual activity for which any person can be charged with a criminal offense, or attempts to do so, shall be fined under this title or imprisoned not more than 10 years, or both.
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It depends whether you think the point of the article is the actions of CBP or not. Personally, I thought it was pretty clear she was writing about CBP. Why should you (or I or CBP) give a crap about her personal moral code, let alone the details of her life, that have nothing to do with CBP and transiting the US.
I personally think prostitution should be legal and destigmatized, and CPB should be polite to everyone, even if they think they've caught a criminal. And polyamory and even polygamy should have their places in society for those who choose the lifestyles. My issue here is really with the weakness of the essay -- if what she's doing is acceptable and legal, then she shouldn't be cagey with her readers about what it is, especially if one of her larger goals is to normalize her sexual choices. If in fact it's none of my business what she's up to with this married man (and yes, she does write that he's married), then I'm not inclined to sympathize with her because it feels to me as a reader like she's not telling me the whole truth.
My one caveat is that I can't tell from the site whether it's aimed at an audience that would automatically understand her situation, and therefore she doesn't need to explain it. Like, it's audience is notably sexually free-thinking, or perhaps she's a regular columnist with a following who knows her story. I just didn't care to dig that deeply. I would still think, though, in an age when articles get distributed around the internet and away from their original audience, it would be wise to add an explanatory clause or two for the benefit of the uninitiated who may somehow stumble across your writing.
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One more thought... This writer is upset that US CBP gave her so much trouble because they suspected her of being actively engaged in an illegal activity. And indeed, it sounds like they were total jerks about it. But I wonder if she is aware that her own country routinely turns away Americans with minor, decades-old, single criminal offenses on their records (a DUI when they were young and stupid, for example) after they have long since straightened up and paid their debt to society.