In fairness, we all know that there are upscale restaurants in the U.S. and foreign countries in which the standard of service includes the server topping off the wine glasses.

Likewise, there are places that refold a diner's table napkin when he or she departs from the table for the restroom.

I don't mind if it's all done in a friendly, unobtrusive, and unpretentious way, and, most important, that it's a complement to, rather than a substitute for, great food.

Ironically, in light of others' opinions here, it's annoying to us in any restaurant if the server doesn't refill an empty glass of water - perhaps other are objecting more to those little darts to the table to add a half-inch and I can understand that being fussy. Still, I prefer it over no refills at all.