I am in a similar situation
DPS-GUM-HNL-EWR

DPS-GUM cleared (not BF), mileage waitlisted for early August for 2 other flights.

I am told BF clears for either GUM-HNL OR HNL-EWR, and I lose my 25000 miles +$200 copay... I think I d rather keep the miles and money if only one clears, but I guess thats not a choice.

Also, I remember seeing a thread about keeping your domestic (or in this case DPS-GUM intl F) upgrade and getting your miles back if the intl BF segments dont clear. Anyone has any experience with that?
The passanger in this case is not elite, so I wonder if she'd still keep the F segment if BF doesnt clear, but I would imagine no.