Thanks. I certainly thought it would be difficult, which is why I was up in the middle of the night, but I didn't realize near impossible. I guess I figured that when the flights were loaded into the system there would be say 10 or so FF seats there for the picking. So I'm a bit clueless...
We did end up with 3 seats thru SFO and 3 thru LAX departing 15 minutes apart and I'd imagine arriving within the hour of each other. There were 4 seats on the HNL flights but that would still leave us without two, with an extra layover and having to pay for interisland, but it was a good thought.
thanks again for the ideas.