Yes I understood that, thank you Dovster. My point was that we manage to have Dos in London which have a number of 'gay orientated activities' but which are not called gaylas. It's generally understood by the locals that London Dos will be gay friendly - to the point where we've had to reassure the straights that they are welcome also on the odd occasion

Frankly, if someone decided to host a gayla in London, I would consider it a reflection that it was considered that my dos weren't gay friendly enough. Given, as AJLondon indicated, the various gay pubs, clubs and bars we've visited (or tried to visit - we queued for Heaven once, but Heaven wouldn't let us in ) in the course of UK dos (dear god, the Leeds Do karaoke! ) it is slightly hard to see how they could be anymore gay friendly, without involving scantily clad, fit young men... now there's an idea

As such, I do find the names, at least in a UK context, divisive. OTOH, I understand that not all dos may have the UK 'we'll try anything once so long as there is alcohol still being served' approach that attendees tend to have, perhaps we have a unique situation on this?