I am always quite stunned at how often travel-savvy people (as one would think many FTers would be) throw up their hands and whine like babies when certain elements of Do's just aren't done to their pleasure. But, I think that's just the nuts & bolts of event-organizing and social collection in general, regardless of internet board or community title, FT or not.

I think it just reminds us all that some people can be, well, difficult, regardless of their affiliation with FT or not. These people need to realize the "organzing" side of events, and understand that many things have to be done a certain way for valid reasons. Rather than whine about it (as some do), perseverate on the smallest of issues (as some do), or insist on their own exceptions to it (as some do), they should be reminded that no one is holding a gun to their head to make them go. Their choice is simply accepting the Do as is, as offered, or not.

A Do organzier runs a real risk of getting a lot of that flack when they open up the "organzing" process to the masses. Seeking input for the planning process is one thing, and IMHO, best left to a smaller team...since in the "too many cooks in the kitchen" paradigm, the more people you throw into the planning mix, the more you'll have to deal with of that "stuff." IMHO, better to plan it, post your offerings, and people can be grown-ups and simply decide to take it or pass. Do organziers that can clearly post this and adhere to it stand to save themselves from immersion in a lot of that "stuff."