Catman, I'd never call you any of those things for refusing to carry out an activity which you don't get enjoyment out of

If you stop enjoying it, if the situations bring stresses which you don't want to deal with, then stop doing it - I personally don't believe that anyone could ever criticise you for that! While I regret that I'll never be able to attend a Cat Man Doo, I also wouldn't want you to feel forced to organise one which you wouldn't enjoy.