Originally Posted by
SkiAdcock
Re: the 'purists' getting together for their own private dos
Just sounds like a group of folk who have met through FT & like each other & like traveling together; I don't think at that point it's a Them Do or FT Do. And doesn't necessarily mean they don't attend FT Dos, as I've seen some of the said 'purists' at dos. And really it's not that big a deal because while they're not fond of all other FTers, not all other FTers are fond of them either so they're not necessarily missed
And there's such a variety of Dos at all times of the year at all parts of the globe; there's something for everyone.
I think you misunderstood what Stimpy was trying to say. I believe he means that there is a contingent of FT 'purists' who believe that
any event involving FTers, should be posted and open to all. I remember early into my FT experience, I had some of those purist feelings. No one wants to hear about a fun party of Fters that they weren't invited to. But it didn't take long for me to realize that attitude was kind of silly. If I want to have dinner with one of my FT friends, or 6, or 12 of my FT friends, I shouldn't feel obligated to invite all 100,000+ members just to be PC.
I do think it can be tricky, and sometimes bad form, to hold a mini-private do in the middle of someone elses public do.
I've hosted plenty of public as well as private do's. Which one of those I choose at the time, is usually based in how much control I want over the number of attendees. For example, I hosted a BBQ at my house at the end of SeaDoo. I specifically chose Sunday afternoon, because generally, the majority of the attendees are gone by then, and the number is manageable. This year, I had just about the same number of attendees at the BBQ as I had at the main event. Luckily, it was only about 30, and I think it worked quite nicely. But had 60 people shown interest, I would have been forced to scramble and change plans, because they wouldn't have all fit.