Originally Posted by
oklAAhoma
...My only intent was to point out the flaw in the OP's statement (that waiters and waitresses don't currently have gender neutral titles).
The funny thing about "server" as a replacement is that it sounds more menial and submissive. Waiter and waitress have a certain dignity to them, conveying how the job isn't merely about serving the food and drinks, but has an important interpersonal aspect to it.