Well, it's your vacation! Traffic between ABQ and SF can often be bad. This drive will add a bare minimum of an hour and a half round trip, and likely more. If it were me, I'd try to hit Petroglyph on my way out of ABQ rather than driving back down from SF and then back up. This would give you time to do more at Bandelier. Just my 2¢.

As far as food in ABQ, deubster had some good suggestions. Artichoke Cafe is very good ('modern' American). Los Cuates is good New Mexican. The Frontier is a must-do in ABQ, but not just for breakfast. The Frontier Burrito is excellent and the carne adovada burritos are great too. For breakfast, they are also famous for their sweet rolls. Whatever meal you're there for, don't forget the delicious OJ (fresh-squeezed). Quarters is good BBQ. My one disagreement with deubster is Garduños, which I'd avoid. For another New Mexican place, I'd suggest El Patio. Il Vicino has great wood-fired pizzas, good sandwiches and salads, and great microbrewed beer. Scalo is a good choice for Italian.