The portion highlighted in bold describes my personality too. I am hesitant to ask, and wait, until the FA does, what she was going to do anyway, such as offering a refill or a bring a snack. Last night, I nodded off as we were taxiing, my wife did too. When I woke up I had no idea how long we had been airborne. Not knowing if we were close to landing, or it was going to follow soon. Some FA's are not very kind when you ask for a drink once the aircraft has started to descend, some will give you one anyway. Being considerate, I didn't want to ask for one if the crew were preparing for landing. When I saw her taking back empty glasses I knew I had slept through. I still wanted a glass of water. I got her attention and told her I wanted a drink of water. As I was drinking my water, the announcement preparing for landing was made. An attentive FA would ask a pax when they woke up if they would like a drink while a non-attentive would just go on with here routine. That's where the difference is between an attentive FA and a minimalist FA.

I firmly adhere to my belief as a passenger, I should not make demands that would interfere with an FA's other duties. Many of the FA's do both well, some of them in an outstanding manner, while some seem to forget the service part.