Originally Posted by
PTravel
I'm not going to get into a debate over literary style. If you like, we can match graduate degrees some time.
Notwithstanding, what you wrote above does, indeed, get to the heart of the matter. If you know there is a potential that your kid is going to kick seats, then book bulkheads, F, or don't fly with your kid. Because I don't care whether your kid is a perfect angel 99% of the time if, the 1% of the time he is not, I'm on long haul trying to sleep, or a transcon trying to relax myself enough to get through a difficult job interview, etc. Seat kicking is never acceptable. Period. Your best efforts mean nothing, if the result of them is that my seat is kicked. Your child's otherwise angelic behavior means nothing, if your child kicks my seat.
That kind of imposition on strangers is completely unacceptable. Ever. Under any circumstances.
And that is difference between you (and parents who think as you do) and me (and people who think as I do). A society in which parents do not inflict intrusive behavior on strangers is not utopian -- it's the society in which I grew up. I am well aware that the prevalent philosophy among many parents is, "I can bring my child anywhere as long as I do my best," but it's one that is, at it's core, an entitlement demand. It is wrong to expect people to tolerate intrusive impositions in any context because they originate from a child. The fact that the parent may have done their best to curtail the imposition doesn't discharge their responsibility to strangers. There are venues in which childish behavior doesn't bother anyone or is, in fact, privileged. Aircraft, however, are not one of them. That's not utopian idealism in my book. THAT is simple reality. It was the reality that I grew up in and spent a good part of my adult life in.
I don't blame you for not wanting to continue to defend your wildly inconsistent statements and definitions common only to you. Does assuming you have a more prestigious graduate degree than I (and I'm sure you do) really make you feel better about that? Boy, I bet your alma mater is proud.
Let me echo your sentiment with which I totally agree "Seat kicking is never acceptable". I never said it was and I never will. If I could guarantee 100% zero seat kicking I would. Frankly though, your habit of playing fast and loose with the english language is probably going to be a much bigger problem at that difficult job interview than the 1% chance that my kid will kick your seat. Make sure to mention all the degrees you have, that ought to help.
I am extremely anxious about taking my child on the plane. I am hoping against hope that that 1% chance doesn't come up. I am even considering drugging my child (legally) which makes me feel like a horrible parent but that's the impact you are having. In the end I don't really agree that we are that different. We both abhor seat kicking and never want it to happen. I also agree with you that I am putting my grandmother's desire to see my son once over the 1% chance that he might kick your seat. Let me know when you find a parent who would choose differently in that "context".