Dear Mr Snake,
I notice all this wonderful advice you're getting doesn't cost the sender a thing.
Actually I think you did exactly the right thing.
What do you gain by making them arrest you? Delays even longer and the potential for more trouble.
So all in all - I don't know anything else to do. Giving the F/A the benefit of the doubt a little bit (and I know some on FT think you should never give that -- each and every one of you has some right to trounce through this world with no one making a blunder at your expense) even so - She may have had a reallll bad day - for whatever reason.
Does that make it right? Or course not - but seeking "just compensation" sometimes costs a lot more than recieved. I admire your use of a great deal of common sense.
Of course not wearing your Braniff Airlines Shirt may help too
YOU DA MAN.
Think of the "milage" you'll get out of this story.
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TANSTAAFL - but if you work it right, FF miles comes pretty close.