A grope AND miles! What is there to complain about?!
(sorry, I just couldn't resist it)
More seriously, this is very much the situation in Europe, with the UK (Heathrow T1 is amazing) a clear winner in the harassment cup.
Similar experiences as the ones described here - you might recall Diana Ross incident a few months back - she was groped around the chest area by a female screener and made a real fuss - they promptly had her arrested. So be careful.
I quite like the idea of rotating hips/breathing heavily when they start patting you, must try that. Maybe airports should introduce slow music around the X-ray areas