So that's how I got in this predicament... I did not immediately ask if he was a US Citizen, and then show him the door when he said no. See, you are never too old to learn something.

Anyway, let's try another hypothetical. Your boyfriend has a medical emergency (you choose: car accident, plague, whatever) and is unconscious and the hospital will not tell you what is going on, nor let you make any treatment decisions.

BillJ