Interesting thread since we can talk about the "most gay" destinations, like PTown or Mykonos, or the most "gay normal" destinations. I'm interested in the latter, which I interpret as "where are the places where gay people are treated exactly the same way as anyone else".

Cities I'd call "gay normal" are places like Reykjavik, Copenhagen, Cape Town. The sort of cities where you won't get questioned about wanting one bed, where people won't assume that you are brothers if you're dining together, and where there's a smattering of gayness in the streets - a bohemian edge, if you like, enough to make you feel you're not "the only gays in the city".

"Most gay" places are those where I'd suggest they get a majority or large minority of gay visitors, and that's part of the attraction of visiting (unlike "gay normal" places, where the city is the main point of visiting). PTown's a nice place, but would it get the same number of visitors if the majority of them weren't gay?

Then I suppose there are some places in the middle like Amsterdam and San Francisco. It's possible to be a gay visitor to those cities and immerse oneself in the gay life and barely see a straight person, but also you could go there and there's enough other stuff to do that you need never enter a bar yet still feel utterly comfortable as a gay man in the city.

Big cities like London and NY probably fit into a fourth category too (I'm really not into labels) in that they are such big cities that all human life is there, gay, gay-friendly and gay-hostile.