Originally Posted by dujvari
Again, to heck with the points. We absolutely agree the points for a single night's stay are insignificant. This is all about principles. Let's call the points in this case exactly what they are... a kickback. If you're in business, you'll recognize this as a "back end deal". The right thing to do would be to negotiate the lowest possible rates for the guests, not lining one's own pocket.
You got my vote! I think the groom is being too "sharp" here. Guests are, well, guests -- not profit centers.
So if any of you mileage junkies are thinking of making similar arrangements for your own weddings, don't do it!
As I wrote earlier, nothing wrong with negotiating with the hotel for any "default" points, but if anyone shows their own SPG card, let 'em earn their own points. After all, they've travelled to your wedding, are paying their own expenses to do so, and are (hopefully) bringing a gift!