I posted this reply on another thread, but it seemed appropriate to place it here as well.
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I second the motion that we all give each other the benefit of doubt. In a tragedy like this, people's reactions vary widely. Some focus on the ordinary - something which is understandable to them ( as opposed to the tragedy which is NOT understandable). Much as when my father died at 38 of a heart attack and my mother's first action when she got home was to clean toilets because "people will be coming by".. she wasn't callous - she was simply focusing on something she felt she had control over. A shock reaction.
The fact is that many of us are in conflict. Travel plans, market changes, job impacts - all are issues we have to deal with. And considering how this tragedy will affect those very things doesn't make us insensitive, uncaring souls. But looking for something we understand and that we might be able to control is a natural reaction in a situation where you feel very much out of control.

Please let's not take our anger at the situation out on each other. That would only compound the tragedy.