Justathought-

Try this one one for size.

My brother's bar mitzvah is this weekend. He lives 1000 miles from any family members other than our sister and mother. He has trained for a year for this event, learning specific things for this weekend. It will take place this weekend.

I, and my family, are concerned that we might not be able to fly. If I have to drive, I need to leave Thursday, and cancel all meetings scheduled Thursday and Friday, so that he has more than 2 family members there.

Another friend of a friend has a wedding.

Life can and MUST go on. I weep and mourn for those whose lives were shattered or lost by these hideous events. But we cannot drop everything because of this- it only adds to the collaterral damage that these ****ers caused.

So I don't think it's wrong or callous for me or others to think about how thier lives might be affected by this massive tragedy.